We are the Mothers…

We are the mothers who’s babies seemed perfect at birth.

We are the mothers whose babies always cried. Or didn’t cry at all.

We are the mothers who felt our tiny ones pull away rather than nuzzle in.

We are the mothers who came to expect little eye contact and worked so hard for every smile.

We are the mothers who watched. And waited.

We are the mothers who swallowed our fear and guilt and told a professional we had concerns.

We are the mothers who have had our lips cut, our eyes split, our cheeks bruised, our hearts broken by violent melt downs.

We are the mothers that keep a tally of information and a raft of professionals names on the tips of our tongues.

We are the mothers who’s children have not slept. And those who do are kept awake reading articles and researching and writing documents and filling out forms. And worrying.

We are the mothers who work so hard for every good experience their child has, wherever it might be. However small it may seem.

And yet

We are the mothers who are stared at, tutted at, passed judgement on.

We are the mothers who are treated badly at the school gates. Or within them.

We are the mothers who’s children, the ones we work so hard for, are not appreciated. Or included. Because they are not ‘good’.

We are the mothers of autistic children.

We’re dealing with more than you could ever believe.

Just to be the mothers we never imagined.









  1. Suburban Mum says:

    Aww hun – such a beautiful and powerful post. xxxx

  2. Suburban Mum says:

    It must be so tough – I cannot even begin to imagine… sending you virtual *hugs* Must arrange another meetup before xmas xxx

  3. Heartfelt and very true Lisa. It is amazing just how lonely being a special needs mum can be. Perhaps it is because our children are at ‘normal’schools. Great poem. It must be poetry week LOL did you see mine? #SSAAchievements

    • mrssavageangel says:

      Thank you Catie. I think the mainstream element does highlight things perhaps. I don’t know maybe it doesn’t I have nothing to compare it to! How funny, I never considered this a poem, but I see what you mean. The spirit must have just caught us both this week 😉

  4. Fantastic post! So honest and powerful x

  5. Beautifully written. Well done mama x

  6. Beautiful and heart wrenching. There are mothers who know that autistic children ARE good children too, and that you don’t need to avoid them. I think some people just tend to be a bit afraid or uncomfortable with what they don’t understand. But it’s very silly if people thought it through – even if you know a bit about autism in general, you still don’t know anything about a specific mother’s specific child, so really you can learn about her and her child by talking to her, as you would with anyone else! #SSAmazingAchievements

    • mrssavageangel says:

      I think you’re right – I get that awkward feeling from people sometimes, but really I’d rather they just ask than avoid. Or think they know Autism, when really they heard some rumours back in the 90s and that their sole understanding. Thats almost worst. But there are good people out there. I know xx

  7. This is such a powerful post! Thank you for sharing it.

  8. Oh gosh, you’ve made me cry. Agree with every sentence. It all seems so blooming hard and unfair sometimes and it will only get more difficult as our children get older. Hugs for writing this. Thanks for linking up with #SSAmazingAchievements

    • mrssavageangel says:

      I’m so sorry – I didn’t mean to make anyone cry. I just get so gaaaahhhhh sometimes, We work so hard, but are treated so badly – it feels monumentally unfair! Thanks for hosting!

  9. ourlittleescapades says:

    Wow, so true, so powerful, brought tears to my eyes. Hugs x x

  10. agentspitback says:

    A powerful post. Thank you for sharing and allowing me a glimpse. #abitofeverything

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