School Update

So yeah I guess I should update about Oscar’s school situation! It’s been a while. But for the longest time it was so up in the air. To be honest it’s not exactly ‘firmly on the ground’ now, but it’s got one foot on the floor and that’s good enough for me at the moment!

So if you remember it was agreed a while ago that Oscar should have an EHCP (an Educational Health Care Plan, the document that replaced the old Statement of Education) due to his diagnosis of Autism. We were thrilled by this decision, as this (legally binding) document sets out the support that he will need, to get the best from his education. Super! It also gives us as parents some heft when it comes to deciding which school he should go to. Fabulous, but this is a huge responsibility. And stressful. I mean what if we get it wrong?

Anyway, that aside, to enable us to try and make the right decision we looked at some specialist schools and some mainstream schools. We knew the ones we liked, the ones we loved and the ones we couldn’t stand. And we passed that info onto the local authority. Some of which was ignored. I think that was the hardest thing. Having to rely on people who weren’t doing what we expected them to do. Several times I was given details of organisations to go to for ‘advice’, when all I really needed was for someone to just do their job properly.

Eventually we were offered the specialist school we (for a myriad of reasons) couldn’t stand. And despite some efforts on their part, the LA just couldn’t get him a place at the specialist school we really liked. And do you know what? That actually helped clarify our minds, more than they had been for a while. Our Plan A had always been to send him to our first choice of mainstream school, one just out of our catchment, but one we felt could give him everything we wanted. And when we got offered a place there, I cried. Being able to put the specialist school question to bed (for now, everything is always ‘for now’ with children!) actually felt so good. I took that as a sign that, for now, this is the right thing to do.

So now we know where he’s going! Woohoo! We have discussed his EHCP with the school and they are totally on board with it all. There is one issue we are jointly going back to the LA to try and amend, and as this involves money it won’t be the easiest argument (because it will be an argument), but I feel like someone’s got my back now, like I’m no longer shouting into the ether. And that’s fantastic.

And when people ask where he’s going I can finally reply, straight up and positively. And that feels the best. I think because we’ve had to faff around for so long over getting his place confirmed that actually I don’t feel as upset about him starting big school as maybe I would have done had it been straightforward.

Now, if I could just get over how sad the thought of buying him black shoes makes me 😭

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Comments

  1. diaryofuem says:

    That last bit made me actually lol! I will be devastated by that too.
    Fab news that you got the one you wanted and they’re mega supportive 🙂 also, you will probably still cry on his first day!

    • mrssavageangel says:

      They’re just so ugly! Boys shoes all look like cheap nasty trainers from the 80s. If only cost the same!!!! And yes I probably will 😭

  2. My son goes to mainstream school and it’s turned out to be the best decision we made for him. They can’t do enough for him and I’m happy to say that they have learned a lot more about autism because of him. All the best, lovely. #spectrumsunday

    • mrssavageangel says:

      Thank you so much Tracy, that’s so reassuring to hear! I’m crossing everything it goes well for us!

  3. downssideup says:

    So glad to read that things are going smoothly, it can be such a fraught time. Mainstream has been wonderful for Natty but we take one year at a time. Good luck.

    • mrssavageangel says:

      That’s our plan too Hayley. What more can we do? I remember reading your post about transition a while ago. Must revisit. We’ve got so many visits planned before the end of term, but then there’s 8 weeks for him to forget!

  4. Lisa this is such wonderful news and such a joy to read! I’m glad you’ve found a way forward that works for you – black shoes notwithstanding haha. Thanks for linking up at #sharethejoy and look forward to seeing you next month at BML16!

    • mrssavageangel says:

      Thank you so much Michelle. It was a really stressful period of my life, but I’ve come out feeling more sure. Thank you for hosting. Hope to see you at BML too!

  5. That’s great that you got the school you wanted. I find that a decent school makes all the difference.

  6. I’m so pleased you have the official diagnosis and hope you get the support you need X #spectrumSunday

    • mrssavageangel says:

      Thank you so much. It is important that we’ve got the diagnosis, although I don’t think I realised how much at the beginning, especially when I hear how much hassle other families have had trying to get one. It’s opened us to to all sorts of support.

  7. Well done lovely!!! I am so so so proud of you. Really. I hope you don’t feel patronised by that because I really mean it. Love the positivity and humour in this as I know how hard it has been for you. I hope Oscar will be really happy and well supported there. Big ❤️ TY for linking up to #FamilyFun 🎉

    • mrssavageangel says:

      Thank you so much darling. I don’t find it patronising at all! I love that there are people out there as thrilled as I am! This is what I love about blogging – truly!

  8. Fantastic news that you have clarity now, it sounds as though it has not been easy at all. I like your approach that the clarity is for now…that seems a very realistic way of approaching life not just children. I hope you find this big school continue to be supportive as Oscar starts. Yep those shoes…sad times. Thank you for linking with #FamilyFun

    • mrssavageangel says:

      Thank you so much. Yes I learnt very early on that with children there is no ‘now’ there is only ‘for now’ 🙂 Arent the shoes awful!

  9. Oh, I am so please lovely! What fab news! School’s are such a huge stress for us at the moment even though he is already there. I really hope this all works out for you all as a family! Lovely to have you back on #spectrumsunday! Hope you join me again this week xx

    • mrssavageangel says:

      Oh no I’m so sorry to hear that! I hope it gets sorted before the holidays, so you can concentrate on the summer holidays! Sending big hugs

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